So the hunt was on for a proper family replacement with space for everybody including the future jr.
After a lot of uncertainty on my part (i could easily have bought a 15 year old Volvo or something similar if i'd followed my heart) a Touran seemd to fit the bill, nothing in our price range though and the right car didn't seem to exist, until one saturday morning a suitable candidate was spotted online, test driven and bought, all in one day. Haven't picked it up yet as part of the deal was new summer and winter tyres as well as a couple of cosmetic touch ups.
Ta-Da....
a 1.9TDi VW Touran from 2007
the newest, most expensive, and probably boring car i have ever owned.
I'm planning to put my 'special' chrome hubcap steel wheels on that i originally got for the passat, just so there is some redeeming feature.